Saturday, January 2, 2010

intersex anger

It has recently come to my attention that some readers consider this to be a very angry blog. I am sorry that it has been interpreted as such. It is true that I (and most intersexuals) are angry about our situation, and sometimes I use this blog to vent. The purpose of the blog is to raise awareness of issues and problems that many people don't even know exist, it is supposed to be a teaching tool, and if my readers don't see it as such, then I have failed in my objective. I am not an overly angry person, It is just frustration over my situation in general and a world that often doesn't "get it". This frustration is not focused at any particular people, no one is to blame. In fact everyone involved in the medical treatment of intersexuals has charitable intentions and feel that they are doing the best thing for the child. We are just victims of groupthink and social views of normalcy. I am sorry if my readers got the wrong idea about me, or intersexuals in general, and I will try to watch my tone more closely in the future.


  1. I'm a new reader to your blog, and I find your tone to be entirely appropriate. I believe you are achieving the goals that you state in this posting. The places where you do express anger, it seems you are placing that emotional response in a larger cultural and historical context so readers will understand the anger, and then following up with attempts to understand other points of view as well. In other words, I find your approach to be very reasonable and balanced. And besides, you should feel free to express anger on your own blog. The internet is overflowing with irresponsible angry postings (just look at the youtube comments on almost anything), and your postings are well-balanced, informed, and very thoughtful.

  2. Anger is an appropriate emotion in many cases. I have never felt that you are personally attacking people, but that you are angry about the fundamental sexism and mistreatment of intersex people in our cultures. This, in my opinion, is a necessary stage in our healing as a community. In order to move to help and support, one must deal with the hurt, the feelings of exclusion and the misunderstanding that we face (actually we are hidden and not allowed to exist as we really are). When we try to express ourselves, we are told that we are angry often. This is another way of silencing us.

    Keep up the great work. I find you writings to be very interesting, articulate and informative.

    Kindest regards,

  3. I agree with the previous commenters. You seem to have acheived a balance here that shouldn't be disturbed by outside opinions. As you personal blog, you set the tone, and I believe you have set a tone that is entirely appropriate to the situation. Good work!

  4. Just subscribed to this blog... Haven't read everything yet, but I got to this post and I wanted to tell you to fucking blog on, my friend. This is a blog. Use it for what's it's meant for and keep up your passion (angry or not). Can't wait to keep reading.